Hi folks,

It’s official! A recent research study concludes:

“Emotional Intelligence (EI) coaching for doctors is needed to optimize the relationship with the patients” (see end of this mail)

Coincidentally, during the Conscious Journey Medical and Holistic telecall  last week it became apparent that healthcare professionals may not automatically make a connection between coaching, emotional intelligence and the important role of coaching as a tool for increasing emotional intelligence in healthcare. In fact it became apparent that they may not know what emotional intelligence is, let alone why they should need coaching to increase it!

It is important that we join up the dots for healthcare professionals, practitioners, providers and educators because the association is not at first obvious.

Some years ago I researched workplace bullying in healthcare, which is a symptom of low emotional intelligence. The solution to a workplace culture of bullying and toxic relationships is to increase emotional intelligence, and coaching is a very effective tool for doing that. In my opinion it is the best tool that we have so far for increasing emotional intelligence.

So this is the important message… increasing emotional intelligence in the workplace leads to profound effects in improving the working environment:

• reducing stress,
• improving staff turnover,
• increasing employee job satisfaction,
• improved sickness / absence levels,
• improved retention and
• saving thousands of dollars in staff health, recruitment and re-training costs.

And how do we increase emotional intelligence? Through coaching and not just any coaching, emotionally intelligent coaching. The degree of emotional intelligence (specifically presence and awareness) of the coach makes a difference. (if you’re not familiar with emotional intelligence, you can find out more here) 

The message is simple.. want to have happier staff, happier patients, save money and reduce stress? develop a coaching culture. But as coaches we can’t skip to the punchline because healthcare practitioners and providers need to know how. We need to fill in the blanks.

Every time we collect a little piece of research like this re-affirming the connection between coaching – emotional intelligence – and improved outcomes, it strengthens the case for coaching in healthcare.

SIG co-host Anya Sophia and myself are co-facilitating a ”Coaching in Healthcare” program which begins in November. This is an easily accessible distance learning program offered through telegatherings (teleseminars) which may be invaluable to you and / or your team. Feel free to spread the word by forwarding the link.

As coaches and health professionals it serves us to familiarise ourselves with the essentials of emotional intelligence and it’s role in transforming healthcare culture. Then, if we also work on increasing our own emotional intelligence, we are much better placed to make a case for coaching as an effective tool in transforming healthcare culture.

As we transform ourselves we transform the culture.

Enjoy your week!

Warm Regards, Ruth Hadikin

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Weng, H.C., Chen, H.C, Chen, H.J, Lu, K., & Hung. S.Y. (2008). Doctors’ emotional intelligence and the patient-doctor relationship. Medical Education, 42, 703-711.

This study explored the associations among patients’ trust, patient-doctor relationship (PDR), and doctors’ EI as measured by WLEIS, a 16 item self-report EI measure. A total of 994 outpatients and 39 doctors representing 11 specialties participated in the study. In addition to the doctors, three nurse directors rated doctors’ EI using the same scale. The findings showed that there was no significant association between a doctor’s self reported EI and patient-rated trust and the PDR. However, nurse-rated EI of doctors was positively associated with patient trust and the PDR. The main implication of the study is that 360 EI tests may be a better evaluation of doctors’ EI than self-report measures and that EI coaching for doctors is needed to optimize the relationship with the patients. (extract published in EI Consortium update)

I really like this blog that discusses the importance of coaching during these difficult times of world transition…. as the author Corinna says:

“Whether we like it or not, we are entering what many believe will be ‘transition years’, where our habits, relationships, goals and priorities will need re-assessing and re-establishing.”

Absolutely…. the party’s over and nature is forcing us to change whether we like it or not. We are evolving. It is time for us to grow into the people we always wanted to be. It is time for us to wake up, leave the nest and learn to fly.

At least it’s good to know that we have plenty of support around to help us through. You can read the full article at:

http://coachingtransition.wordpress.com/

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I have just watched this beautiful video from the Heartmath institute http://www.heartmath.com/peace/

I loved the quote “Peace is an Inside Job”  Wonderful!

I’ll remember that… may I always be able to practice it too.

Those Heartmath people… they’re right on the button!

‘coincidentally’ (and I don’t believe in coincidences!) this article on ‘emotional contagion’ (how our moods affect others) dropped in at the same time…

http://www.6seconds.org/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=267

OK so you can see where I’m going with this, right? How many of us would it take, being peaceful, to get the planet to shift… not that many, I’ll bet!

(Maybe we should get bumper stickers made “Peace is an Inside Job”, luvvit!!)

Have a peaceful week,

Warmly, Ruth

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If I received an email with that in the subject header I would hit delete with no hesitation, convinced that somebody was trying to sell me some of those dodgy miracle-pills that make you lose weight fast and probably kill you in the process!

Yet it is absolutely possible to lose weight, in a gentle way, without dieting, and feeling easy (at ease) in the process. I wouldn’t have believed that myself a few years ago. I would have said: “OK, so where’s the catch?” There isn’t one. It is absolutely possible. How do I know? Because I did it.  It takes discipline, a committment to yourself, and time. Thinking very long term, doing it slowly, and taking it easy are key elements.

Why not just relax?

Why does it have to be fast? Think about it. What’s the hurry? You have got the rest of your life so why not just relax? It took a long time to get overweight and it will take a long time to lose it. I calculated that I had 8 stone (112 pounds) to lose and that even if I could lose a stone (14 pounds) a year that would take me 8 years. Actually, it took 6 years. But at the time of my calculation I felt totally depressed, went for a chinese meal, and ate a ton of ice-cream. It felt too much. Too difficult. I felt overwhelmed. My weight at that time was over 20 stone (280 pounds) and rising. I wasn’t just overweight I was clinically obese. Obesity was on my health record, as a diagnosis. It got to the point where I wouldn’t go and see the doctor even if I was sick, because somehow or other weight would always be the issue. I felt judged. I felt ashamed AND I knew what to do. I knew about diets. I had a background in healthcare, I knew all about healthy eating, and knew exactly what I ’should’ be eating. “yeah, yeah, fresh fruits and vegetables, I KNOW” But I wanted to eat chinese food, ice-cream, drink Guinness, and eat steak and chips, mmmmm!

I often pondered the question why we don’t do what we know is good for us. Even though I had health challenges, which the weight wasn’t helping. I knew what to do. Yet I wasn’t doing it. Then in 2001 I hired a coach. I didn’t hire a coach to lose weight, I would never have hired a ‘weight loss’ coach because I didn’t want to be put on a diet. I knew I could do it myself if I was going to and anyway, I was going to carry on eating and drinking what I liked thank you very much! But I was doing coach training and wanted to begin working on my personal development (PD) so I hired a coach.

How on earth does personal development lead to losing weight? The coach I hired was  Anya Sophia Mann and she introduced me to the Conscious Journey. So what does that mean? Well curiously enough , at that time, my life was very ’split’, compartmentalised. I’d always kept work and home life seperate, most of us do, but I didn’t really realise how much. For example I thought I could do coach training, and personal development, and in my mind that was associated with ’stuff to do with work’, not ’stuff to do with ME’! Yet there really is no separation. One of the first things Anya introduced me to was the practice of self-observation. A vital practice in personal development. I laugh now when I look back because I thought I was pretty self-aware. Boy, did I have alot to learn.

Conscious eating

Continual self-observation was the main tool that lead to deeper awareness. This entailed noticing ‘who I was being’ in every area of my life. I eventually had to confront my gremlins and realise how, by compartmentalising my life as I did, I was successfully locking away the uncomfortable parts that I didn’t want to look at. I had so many aspects of my life all neatly packed away in seperate boxes, yet I believed in ‘holistic’ health. I truly believed we were all part of one big whole, that the earth is like a hologram, and everything affects everything else. I believed it, but I wasn’t living it. Self-observation  brought me to the place of deeper awareness of my whole life. No stone was left unturned, which eventually led me to conscious eating.

I ate fast. I ate like a racehorse. No, actually racehorses ate slower than me. Food disappeared off my plate as soon as it was put in front of me. I couldn’t get it down fast enough. So the first thing was to slow down and be aware of everything while I was eating. What was I thinking, feeling, tasting, experiencing? There were no other rules. Anya first invited me to eat slowly and I didn’t want to. I said I won’t enjoy it, I like eating fast. So she said well eat fast then, but with awareness. Bringing awareness to eating and drinking was the key. Eventually I did slow down, paying attention and listening to my body. I realised that often my body didn’t want half the stuff I thought I wanted. I was letting my ‘mind’ and habit, decide what to eat. I would think of ice-cream and think I wanted it because I had thought of it, or craved it. When it was in my hand, if I really listened, sometimes my body didn’t want it.

Learning to feel full

Learning to feel when I was full was a huge breakthrough. This took some time. I used to envy people who knew when they’d had enough and would just stop eating. I’d think ‘how do you do that?’ while I continued shovelling the food down until my plate was clear. This is where the holistic piece matters. Everything affects everything else. Learning to feel was a pre-requisite for learning to feel when I was full. So the inner work I was doing on my emotions and feelings, was now being applied to the area of food. And the close relationship between food and emotions. Before I could feel full, I had to be able to feel.

I was unaware of how dependent I’d become on food and alcohol to manage stress in my life. This seems so obvious now, I can’t imagine how I was so unaware. But this is how clever we are at compartmentalising aspects of ourselves that we don’t want to, or can’t, face. The Conscious Journey work with Anya allowed me to very gently, and slowly, begin acknowledging and accepting all the aspects of myself that I had ‘locked out’ of my awareness. Bringing awareness to everything.

Self-observation is not easy. As soon as we begin, we might see all the things we’d rather not see in ourselves: our fears, judgements, and predjudices. All the things that make us human. All the things that make us like everybody else. But eventually, exquisite self-observation brings us ‘home’ to ourselves (as Anya would say). Once we have accepted all the aspects of ourselves that we have locked out, we become whole. We can lose our other crutches and coping mechanisms, and rely on ourselves, our powers of acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-observation, and deeper awareness.

We can lose weight, with ease, by simply being consious. With awareness we might eat slower, or less, who knows? But in our awareness something changes.

Don’t even think about it!

I don’t even know what I weigh. I know my clothes went from size 32 to size 18. I’m now wearing jeans again! Anya invited me to not have weight be ‘an issue’. This meant not obsessing over it. Now what happens if you ‘go on a diet’? Yes. All your time and attention is suddenly taken up by thinking about food in a way that you never did before and, more importantly, on all those things you ’shouldn’t’ have. If I say to you ‘don’t have ice-cream’, suddenly you’re thinking about ice-cream. I just put the idea in your head.

So I didn’t weigh myself, and I focused my attention on other things like awareness and self-acceptance. I spent my time focusing on what I did want, not on what I didn’t want. Eventually I started to feel better about being me, continued eating what I liked, enjoyed my food and I lost a heck of alot of weight. Almost, it feels, without trying. (Well it was without focusing on it). But it wasn’t fast. My weight came down gradually over the period from 2001 to 2008. (Although I’ve been wearning jeans since 2006!)

There is a little more to it than just not weighing myself, and conscious eating, but that was a major turning point. Once my awareness developed the other pieces fell into place. I understood myself and my relationship with food more deeply. Also, having the support of a coach was invaluable. Even though I’d like to take the credit, I don’t know if I would have trusted the process, and stuck it out, without someone there to support me. Anya’s support was priceless.

This is such a relaxed, easy way to be with this. I wish every obese person knew how much better you can feel, and how ‘easy’ it can be. This is a gift for life. And you need never diet again. If you know someone who is suffering on account of their weight please pass this along to them. If this is you, then email me and connect. You really can feel so much better about your life.

Enjoy your self, your life, and your food!

Warmly, Ruth

Ruth Hadikin is a Personal Development Coach based in Scotland, UK.

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I’ve just read an article by Robert G. Allen from the Enlightened Wealth Institute called “It’s time to Pursue Your Passions” You can read the full article here.

It’s a very clear reminder of what many of us, especially coaches, hear almost every day. That people get distracted making money to free themselves up to do what they love, whereas if you begin with doing what you love, the money will flow from that. There is also a very useful table outlining the distinctions between goals and intentions. (Intentions are what we want to have if we are to manifest wealth, rather than goals which could distract us.) It’s worth clicking on the above link just to grab this table for future reference.

So I felt moved to pick up where this article leaves off. It concludes by saying:

“Rather than looking for happiness in some future goal of financial freedom (like almost all Americans), you want to find something that fulfills you every step of the way.”

I agree and I also feel that most of us don’t even know where to begin looking. Or we know what we love, but it seems so unrelated to any known source of income that the two concepts seem poles apart, and we get jobs to pay the rent to keep a roof over our head while we continue doing what we love.

Personally, I love sitting in the sunshine. But I couldn’t see how that would make me rich. Neither could my Dad when he would yell.. have you got a job yet? My stomach would contract. I didn’t want a job. I knew I didn’t! But the whole world seemed conspired against me at that time. I’d better get a job and make some money or else I was lazy. Why can’t I just BE? I would sit in the garden and dream of being a writer.. or maybe a painter.

So I got a job. Reluctantly! After a few false starts I entered nurse training. It seemed as good as anything else. Then midwifery which, I discovered, I actually did love. But I always felt like I was ‘wrong’ somehow. That everyone else had a purpose. A ‘goal’. A strong sense of direction. They knew what they wanted. But whenever I thought about what I wanted to do… the answer always came: Nothing, in particular. I don’t care. I would say to people ‘I don’t care what I’m doing as long as I’m enjoying who I’m with’. I met such wonderful people on my journey and have enjoyed being with them.

But you won’t find many job descriptions with “Must Enjoy BEING” written in the person specification. But it should be! This is the number one essential quality for a people-person. A coach, nurse, midwife, counsellor, psychologist, physician, sales professional, telesales etc. Carl Rogers the American psychotherapist wrote extensively about being. I think even now people don’t really know the depth of what he was imparting to us. What a powerful impact the quality of ones’ presence can have in any situation. An ability to enjoy being fully right here, right now.

If I have one regret in life it is only that I didn’t recognise this quality in myself long ago. I knew I could never quite get with the ‘doing’, and felt bad because this is labelled as ‘idle’ or ‘lazy’. If this sounds like you I invite you to fully embrace it! Interestingly, when teaching ‘health and social care’ to 17 year olds I would ask what they love to do.. they seemed almost perplexed by the question and would just shrug and say ‘nothin’ – just hanging out with me mates!’. How perfect for future healthcare professionals and social workers. They, like me, enjoy being with people, yet they also (like me) couldn’t articulate this in a way that made it sound like a positive quality.

The Art of Idling

Develop the Art of Idling to the n’th degree! Now I don’t mean hanging out on the couch with a six-pack and a bowl of popcorn although I must admit I’ve done enough of that in my time too.. nothing wrong with it in moderation. Now indulging what you love is one thing but when you reach 260 lbs (20 stone) you know you’ve gone off the rails a bit!! This only leads to depression and a feeling of being more dead than alive. However, there are dangers on this path. I could have died from over-indulgence if I hadn’t hired my coach, Anya Sophia  (Founder of Conscious Journey) at a crucial moment, to support me, offer guidance and most importantly teach me the importance of doing it WITH AWARENESS. She emphasises awareness is key. In Zen there is a term ‘Zazen’ which means just sitting. But it is not sitting watching TV (which is a distraction). Zazen is sitting in the NOW. Fully alert. Present to what is.

If we are fully present in the moment, it will lead us to our truth. If we fully immerse ourselves in what we love it will lead us to happiness. It will teach us what true happiness really is. Fully immersing myself in what I thought I wanted to do (nothing!) made me very unhappy. I realised hanging out on the couch with the beer and chips wasn’t hitting the mark. And I didn’t want to live my life like that. I discovered that more of what I wanted, didn’t make me happy. But I had to discover that for myself by diving deeply into it. Doing exactly what we want might lead us to realise ‘this isn’t it’! But underneath there will be a deeper truth. A hidden treasure.

Idling, is different from just doing nothing. When the car is idling in neutral it is ready to go. It is not in drive. It is not forging ahead. But neither is it switched off. We have to develop this quality within ourselves of relaxed alertness, if we are to listen to what our heart is saying, and find our true passion.

I have been a meditator for some time now, and it has long been my intention to develop the quality known as ‘calm abiding’. This is where we relax in full awareness, without too much mental ‘noise’. When I was stressed and had a very busy mind, I couldn’t imagine anything more peaceful than ‘calm-abiding’. So I chose that state of ‘being’ as my ‘goal’.

I have just returned from a beautiful walk in which I had an exquisite experience of being. My mind was still and I was able to absorb, and receive, the ‘life’ of the forest. This is my measure of ’success’. This is my passion. This is what I love. This is wealth to me. It is what I want to live, and teach. (I’m so passionate about this I want to get into Soul Astrology and explain how it can guide us, but I have to remember this is a blog, not a book, so I’ll save that for another post!) 

I’m not always in this space but each time I get pulled off-course is a lesson in how to get back, and that deepens my knowing and develops my skill. Where does the money come in? I attract clients who are also searching for the same thing. We learn and develop together. I get paid for literally ‘being’ with them, in whatever way is most beneficial to them: coaching, teaching, listening etc. When I returned from my walk there was a cheque in the post. It was almost as if Life itself was saying yes. You’re n the right path. It was even the right path when I was on the couch… I just had to have that experience of the extreme so I could refine the Art of Idling and discover there are benefits in there if applied appropriately!

Exercise for Discovering What You Love

Now idling doesn’t do it for everybody. I used my path as an illustration. So what about you. What do you love? How can you find out? An exercise I often use with my clients is to take every negative label that others have thrown at you, and ask yourself: “In what context would this actually be a good thing?” What seems ‘wrong’ in one situation, will be necessary in another. If you are suffering rom stress and burnout, being ‘idle’ for a while could save your life.

Every strength is a weakness if applied inappropriately, and every weakness becomes a strength when applied appropriately in the ‘right’ context. So if you don’t know what you love, you could do worse than begin looking at what others criticise you for. You might just find your hidden treasure!

Enjoy yourself,

Ruth Hadikin

Ruth (the lazy person’s couch coach!) :0)

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On the subject of attracting love, OSHO reminds us that ‘like attracts like’. he says:

“Only happy people are attracted towards happy people.”

This reminds me of a comedienne who used to say: “It’s true that misery loves company. You never see a fly on a fly-paper shouting ‘go round, go round!‘”

Read more from OSHO at:

http://www.osho.com/magazine/haveataste/theothermyself.cfm?Nr=8

Ruth Hadikin offers Personal Development with Soul Astrology. She is based in Scotland, UK.

This reminded me of a man I once met who healed his cancer with love…

http://www.osho.com/magazine/haveataste/bodydharma.cfm?Nr=8

You might well be wondering what Soul Astrology, Moon Cycles and Personal Development have got in common with each other!

For a long time I have been interested in the cycles and phases of the moon. Going way back to when I was a practising midwife, it appeared that there were more births around the full moon. A cancerian friend of mine, also a midwife, suggested we do some serious research around the topic but aside from checking the birth register in the delivery suite (and there seemed to be more) the demands of life and work took over and we never got much further.

But I have always noticed my own rhythms throughout the moon cycle. As I have deepened my self-awareness in general, through self-observation, the process of observing an inner monthly rhythm has become more focused. Learning esoteric, or soul, astrology, has now put a new spin on things – for me, anyway. Last month I attended a full moon meditation in Cancer held by Esoteric Astrologer Errol Weiner. (to learn Esoteric Astrology from a very knowledgeable teacher, contact him and ask if you can be added to his mailing list at: rainbowzodiac@googlemail.com )

He suggested that if all we ever do is observe ourselves through each of the moon’s cycles then we would have an experiential course in Esoteric Astrology. I feel it would also be a wonderful opportunity to deepen our personal development through practising self-observation.

So what do we observe, and how?

We develop a practice of watching our own inner world. Thoughts, feelings, emotions. Then we relate this to the current moon cycle. In this case, it is Leo. Leo is all about self-consciousness: awareness of ourselves and our ‘lower ego’. It is the very strong belief in ‘I’, Me and Mine. The challenge for each of us in a Leo cycle is to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy ‘ego’.

So what is ‘ego’? There are many definitions but I like the one from Stephen and Ondrea Levine in “Embracing The Beloved” They point out that ego is simply when the mind is thinking about itself. This is a very simple definition that helps to clarify a difficult subject. Many times throughout the day I can see my mind thinking about ‘itself’. It’s whenever I’m thinking about me. So how do we know when the ego is healthy or unhealthy? Well we all need an ego. Without it we’d die. It is our survival mechanism.

When does ego become unhealthy? When we are attached to it, or to what it wants. When we believe too strongly what the mind is thinking about itself, which is usually an exaggeration. Such as ”I’m unlovable” or “I’m not good enough” or when we so desperately need what the ‘ego’ (mind) thinks it wants, that we knock everyone else aside to grab it. (Thoughts of the January sales come to mind here!) Such strong ‘grasping’ can induce a kind of madness.

So are you willing to play? Here we have the Moon in Leo cycle from July 22 to August 22, 2008 (or to be more accurate, a complete phase of the moon while the sun is in Leo). A wonderful opportunity to observe the effects it has on us and our ego-mind’s, and just notice how it works. Be easy on yourself in this process, what may not like what we see, especially when we are courageous enough to look at the ‘negative’ aspects of ourselves. It is important to be responsible for yourself (that would be a healthy ego: the ability to take care of you) and get valuable support for yourself. Especially if you are new to self-observation. I recommend Conscious Journey programs, coaching and services which have been very beneficial to me.

I invite you to keep a journal of your experiences. And if you are willing to share, bring your experiences along to this month’s free Soul Astrology teleclass and let’s learn together the meaning and implications of the full moon cycles for enhancing our personal and spiritual development.

Best Wishes, Ruth

Ruth Hadikin offers Personal Development with Soul Astrology and is based in Scotland, UK

Last night I was invited to a gathering with a friend this coming Friday, which I declined because I am already participating in, and co-facilitating, a number of ‘telegatherings’ at the same time.

This led our conversation to the topic of teleseminars, teleconferences, teleclasses, teleforums or telegatherings etc. they go by many names but basically it is where people ‘meet’ over the telephone for various reasons. Some people use them for business meetings, I use them for education – to host classes where participants are spread so far and wide geographically that having everyone physically in the same room would be impossible. My associate Anya Sophia of Conscious Journey, uses them for ‘gatherings’, for various purposes, for focus groups, education and/or coaching.

Feel the connection!

So my friend asked me ‘what is it like’? and I replied ‘it is exactly like being in the same room except we all have our eyes closed’. Imagine sitting in a room with a group of people and the only difference is that you just can’t see them. This is where our conversaton became interesting, because as we spoke I realised why telegatherings have become so important to me, and such an important part of my life. For me every time I join in, it validates my sense of connectedness.

It is very easy for me to ‘rationalise’ things away. For example if I’m in a group meditation with a group of people in the same room, and I ‘feel’ or ’sense’ something… then my mind can easily explain that well of course, it is because we are all sitting in the same room, so of course I would feel people’s energy fields. But when those people are thousands of miles away? It is not so easily rationalised away.

Every month, as Anya Sophia and I co-host monthly telegatherings, my sense of connectedness to everyone on the call is re-affirmed. Earlier this year we co-facilitated a telegathering for ‘Earth Day’. Rather than some calls which are discussion based, this one was intentionally more ‘meditative’ in nature. We intended to create a feeling of appreciation for the Earth, and hold this space for a period of time. It is especially when we participate in telegatherings that are more meditative in nature that I feel connectedness. It is a powerful, spiritual experience for me.

It is all the more meaningful because some years ago I used to have a phobia, well a couple of phobias actually! They were both related. I had a fear of people I didn’t know, so experienced anxiety if I had occassion to speak to new people, also I had a fear of answering the telephone, because of course that often entailed speaking with people I didn’t know. I didn’t know it at the time, but both of these phobias are symptoms of the same ‘dis-ease’ which is the illusion of our separateness. The solution is to experience our very real connection to each other, so we are no longer ’strangers’.

Thanks to Anya Sophia and the Conscious Journey I have a wonderful ‘healing’ opportunity every month to experience this very real connection, in a telegathering. The very fact that it is a telegathering, and we are not in the same room, is what affirms the sense of connectedness. My mind just cannot rationalise away the feeling of connection with people who are together on the call yet geographically very ’seperate’.

If you are wondering what this feels like I can only say try it for yourself and see. I found it pretty amazing, but that’s my experience.

It is not the same as a webinar, or web conference. There is no visual component and a computer is not involved. That feels important to me. Maybe the fewer distractions makes it easier to ‘tune-in’ to the people on the call, I don’t know. But all you need is a normal telephone and the ‘bridge’ number ( a special phone number that allows many people to be on a call together at the same time) If you haven’t dialled in before, why not try it and see? You may well be surprised, as I was!

I am hoping to offer more teleclasses and telegatherings in future. Especially now living in the Highlands and Islands region of Scotland, with fuel prices rocketing, there is huge potential here for connection and education through telegathering.

If you’d like to join us just out of curiosity, you are very welcome, and we’ll be glad to have you on the call. Here’s what we’re up to this week: Friday July 18th 2008 – pick a topic that appeals to you and just dial in to join in!

Medical & Health Care SIG (Special Interest Group)
Friday July 18th 10 – 11 am ET (3-4pm UK)
Bridge Number: (001) 407-649-8983 (US)
This is for everyone who is interested in supporting the transformation of health care culture: making healthcare a happier, healthier place to live and work, through deeper awareness and emotional intelligence. This month’s theme: “Watch your language:. it affects the care of health, in Healthcare”   

Emotional Intelligence and Consciousness
Friday, July 18th 11am-12pm ET (4-5pm Uk)  Bridge Number: (001) 407-649-8983 (US)
This is for everyone who is interested in deepening emotional intelligence and consciousness. In this group we focus more on simple and practical aspects of emotional intelligence rather than theoretical models.

This month’s theme:“What is the distinction between happiness and joy when it comes to emotional intelligence?” You can also join this SIG Yahoo group at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/EICsig

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CoachingNow: Musing in the Moment with A Lifecoach with Anya Sophia
Friday, July 18th 12-1pm ET (5-6pm UK)

Wit, Wisdom and Soul Astrology with Ruth Hadikin
Friday, July 18th 11am-12pm ET (6-7pm UK)

TO REGISTER:- CLICK HERE and join in time for this month’s call. Make sure you check the boxes for “CoachingNow” and/or “Soul Astrology”

You can also click on the above links and listen to an mp3 recording of previous calls. It would be wonderful if you would join us on these telegatherings this month.

Warmly, Ruth

 Ruth Hadikin offers Personal Development Coaching with Soul Astrology. She is based in Moray, Scotland, UK.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who doesn’t have issues about money?

If we haven’t got it we’re wondering how to get it. If we’ve got it we’re wondering how to manage it.

Do we even understand our dysfunctions around money, let alone view money as a path of healing for ourselves, humanity and our planet?

Is the problem really money?

…or how we’re looking at things?

 

What if none of it was ever really ’ours’ to begin with?

“To confront our dysfunction around money, own it and transform it is one of the most powerful things we can do to make the world work.”

http://www.positivenews.org.uk:80/artman/publish/article_1774.shtml